Kryptonite – Toxic Waste

posted November 5th, 2013 by John B.

You ever have a friend, relative, or acqaintance that seems to be your kryptonite or toxic waste.

They always seems to repel you and seems to make you feel bad at every interaction.  My advice is usually to stay away from any person like that in your life.  That means personal interaction, calls, texts, Facebook (great place to view these freaks at a distance and then unfriend them), Tweets, parties, or any other form of communication that sucks the life out of you.

The other day a friend of mine was telling me that she was seriously considering leaving her department at work, maybe even leaving the company, because she was not getting along with some of her co-workers.  Seems others were taking credit for her work, or making her feel incompetent in areas where she still needed more experience.  In truth, I usually advise people to stay away from people like that.  You know the occasions like parties where the idiot loud mouth is at a party, the narcisistic company man who can’t tell you a single thing about his/her kids, the people who smell of perfume and/or cologne and are stuck in the 80′s, the person who monopolizes conversation back to them as the topic, or my favorite is the person who always has a story that is just a little more outrageous or “Over-The-Top” than yours.  Unfortunately these are her co-workers who she has to deal with every day, but if you don’t have to deal with this race (and I say that knowing that every race has their idiots) of humans then take steps to minimize contact or have a friend as a buffer for the insanity.

I had a conversation or two with friends about “toxic people,” spurred by the recent conversation I had with my friend at work.  I finally had to write these little snippets of advise down.  Take it with a grain of salt and a I apologize for those of you that just realize you might fit into the race of crazies listed below.

You can’t reason with psycho people, so don’t try.

You can’t help those who don’t pay back money they borrowed, over and over again.  Stop “lending,” save your money and/or walk away.  Save the friendship and the money.

You can’t excuse inconsiderate idiots.  Being late, rude, or an ass is not a cause for you to add them to your life.

You can’t pretend away unkind people and their actions.  Stay away from them and let them self destruct alone.

You can’t tame angry resentful people.  They will angry and resentful tomorrow, next week, and next year.

You can’t cure the insecure.  When reasoning doesn’t work for our friends that have this phobia all you can do is not let them ruin your life and fun.

You can’t fix crazy.  You really can’t fix crazy.

You can’t stand for over-reactionary people.  I stay away from any teen girl or adult that has that supper high scream that they emit  when they are excited the water faucets work….  If I can hear it, I know my black lab can hear it too.  You know the type of people who reads something into everything.

You can’t help those who are emotionally stunted.  thought that never smile or react in the normal way.

You can’t clean sleazy.  We all know someone.

You can’t stand for dishonest.  Expose those that are dishonest, before you get lumped into the same group with them.

You can’t humble narcissistic.  Loud obnoxious people are just spirit killers.

You can’t educate the  clueless.  Forest Gump knew he wasn’t a smart man, and Larry the Cable guy knows he doesn’t know everything.  If you think people don’t have a clue you probable are right.

I just remind myself of the first part of the Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Neibuhr that states…

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him forever in the next.
Amen.       –Reinhold Niebuhr

So go out today with the strength and wisdom to know the difference.  You may increase your life by ten years.

 

John Budiao-